Deciding to Change

Deciding to Change

In life we face challenges: relationships, work, physical, emotional, financial, spiritual, educational, etc. Many times we have goals or desires in these areas that seem out of reach. In reality, under your current circumstances they may be out of reach. To achieve your goals requires change. To stop pain, build a relationship, get a degree or achieve a new level all require you to do something out of the ordinary. Depending on how out of the ordinary will determine, for many, how willing they are to work to achieve the goal.

Many people are miserably stuck in a particular situation because change appears to be a greater risk or fear than the present situation. They are on one side of the river and can see the blessing on the other but they are afraid to cross the river. They have learned to live within their misery instead of doing something about it.

If you are in this situation, what is keeping you from change?

1) Comfort- change may mean getting out of your comfort zone, the area where you are competent, know all the boundaries, feel secure, etc.

2) Fear - fear of what "might" happen if you change or don't succeed. Zig Ziglar says fear, most of the time, is really FEAR False Evidence Appearing Real. You imagine or see something that "could" happen and you believe and act upon it as if it IS going to happen.

3) Others - Unfortunately for most, blaming others is just a lame excuse to not hold yourself accountable.

4) Money - That seems real until you see what others have done with less.

5) Belief - You don't believe you can achieve the change. Start working on your belief through affirmations and surrounding yourself with those who believe in you. Read books on how others overcame obstacles. "Where there is a will, there is a way."

6) Just don't want to - This is typically because a person does not have purpose in their life which includes the betterment of others. Typically this attitude is that the end result is not clearly defined in terms of benefit to yourself or to others. When people see a clearly defined goal and understand and see what the benefit to them is, they then want to move forward.

There are several good tools to help you change: affirmations, pictures, clearly defined goals with the benefit, your friends, your family, and counselors. Spend time to identify what the desired outcome should be; get others to help you in this process.

Life leaders realize change is required to live a wholesome, fulfilling life.


Romans 12:2
"Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your minds. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is - his good, pleasing and perfect will."

True change requires us to first change our attitudes. Our attitudes are changed when our mind is renewed. A regular feeding on God's word (not just church once a week) will bring about a transformation. Because the attitudes of the world are so strong, we must regularly (4+ times per week) renew our minds with God's word. I have found that to keep my mind renewed, I must renew my mind throughout the day starting with reading scripture in the morning, having verses in my car or listening to wholesome music. This helps combat the negative I get from today's culture.


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