Forgiveness - Do You Know How?


Forgive - Do you know how to forgive another or receive forgiveness?

Forgive another

All of us have been wronged in someway during our lives. Some are minor insults other times there are major hurts. How does one get past a hurtful time in their life? The first step is forgiveness. Forgiveness is very hard especially if you have deep, painful emotional, financial or other types of scars. Forgiveness is hard especially when the offending person has not acknowledged what they did to you was wrong or even gloated in what they did to you. Forgiveness is hard and painful when they did it to intentionally hurt you.

Not Forgiving

Have you ever thought of the power of holding a grudge or a deep resentment or even hate i.e. not forgiving another person? You feel powerful that you are actually doing something productive to get back at the other person. In reality, the only power that is being exerted is on you. It is a destructive power; destroying you from the inside out.

Truly forgiving someone frees you. It takes a huge burden off you, from the inside out. It enables you to look at life afresh, from a new perspective. Forgiveness allows you to look to the future in a whole new way.

Stuck in the Past?

People who don't forgive are stuck in the past. They can't move forward because the pain of the past is too great. Many people use their past experiences as their identity. Their grudge becomes who they are.

In reality, the only person you destroy when you don't forgive is yourself. If you can't forgive, ask God to help you. Not forgiving has no power over the offending party; it just ruins you.

Receiving forgiveness

Do you have trouble receiving forgiveness? Do you ever think "I am not worthy to receive forgiveness?" Many think that attitude is a humble attitude. But, in actuality, that is attitude of "I am not worthy to be forgiven" is a very proud attitude. It says "I can do better, so don't forgive me until I do better." The emphasis is on "I".

Receiving forgiveness is focusing on the other person and be thankful that they do forgive you. It is accepting the other person's grace. A person who truly accepts forgiveness works then to become a better person. They are humble and are thankful. Many times pride gets in the way of us being forgiven.


Psalm 130:3-5
"If you, O LORD, kept a record of sins, O Lord, who could stand? But with you there is forgiveness; therefore you are feared. I wait for the LORD, my soul waits, and in his word I put my hope."

Colossians 1:13-15
"For he has rescued us from the dominion of darkness and brought us into the kingdom of the Son he loves, in whom we have redemption, the forgiveness of sins."

Only in Christ are we truly, completely forgiven for all things. Have you received that forgiveness?

Forgiving others

Matthew 6:12 from the Lord's prayer
"Forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors."

Colossians 3:13
"Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you."

In Christ you have total forgiveness. Are you holding back giving that to another?

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