Perseverance - Keep Going, Don't Quit

Perseverance - Keep Going, Don't Quit

Have you ever felt like it is not worth going on - giving the effort on a particular project, goal or relationship? I have. I am right in the middle of a tough time getting a business launched. There are many days I just want to throw in the towel and quit.

One of the questions I ask myself is "Have I conditioned myself to give up or stick it out when times are tough? Am I teaching my children to give in, give up or stick it out?"

Americans can have too many choices

As Americans, we are used to instant or near term gratification. We have so many choices that if the going gets tough, we many times, can just choose another path. In many ways this environment of never ending choices teaches us, conditions us, to not have commitment.

Our lives are so relatively easy compared to the rest of the world that if we don't like the circumstances, we can change them. This freedom is both positive and negative. On the positive side, look at what Americans have achieved! On the negative side, look at the divorce rate. Americans have the highest divorce rate in the world - 5 divorces per 1000 people! Look at the diet fads, instead of staying committed to a healthy lifestyle, we want a quick fix.

The impatient age

Because we are in an environment of quick fixes and instant gratification, we have become highly impatient. Americans in general don't go for the long haul. We focus on self and complain that the computer is too slow. We run red lights because we can't wait 2-3 minutes for the next green light. We end relationships because it is their fault, not ours. We want instant victory in a war.

With this mindset, today's Americans would not have liberated this country from England. We would have given up after the debacle of losing New York to the British in 1776. (If you don't know your history, I suggest the book 1776 to learn about perseverance and commitment.)

Here are few suggestions that I use to keep going when the going gets tough. I hope they encourage you to do the same.

1) Focus on the goal and all it's benefits. Write these down. Post in a prominent place and read them regularly. I keep the words "Achievement, Creativity, Freedom and Accomplishment" posted on my white board at work.

2) Get someone else's perspective on your issue. Our perspective may be one sided, warped, narrow minded or narcissistic.

3) Get an accountability/encouragement partner or a group - share your struggles with him/her. Ask them to pray for you. I know several people who send out a prayer request/update email every 4-6 weeks.

4) Take a step back - take a rest, recuperate, recharge your batteries. If it is a relationship in turmoil, temporary separation may be needed.

5) Use affirmations to help you persevere and be committed. For instance, "I am a committed person. I see things to their completion. I am committed to this marriage and will work through our problems. I am a healthy person. I am tough and stick it out. etc. "

6) Read books/stories of how others persevered under extreme difficulties. Listen to positive tapes or CDs.

7) Exercise - it clears the mind and gives you energy.

8) Just keep plodding - don't quit. Zig Ziglar tells a story that life is like a deep well. You begin pumping the hand pump and you don't know exactly when the water will come out. It may come the next pump or it may come in another 20 pumps. If you quit, you will have waisted a lot of energy for no reward. The hardest part of the mountain climb many times, is the last 10%.

9) When you fall down, get up. When you are thrown from the horse, get back on. It may be just that simple.

In life, to achieve your goal, it takes more than effort, it takes commitment.

Faith

2 Corinthians 4:8-10
We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed. We always carry around in our body the death of Jesus, so that the life of Jesus may also be revealed in our body. For we who are alive are always being given over to death for Jesus' sake, so that his life may be revealed in our mortal body.

Paul was willing to go through hard times: shipwrecks, beatings, sleepless nights, no food, persecutions, even being stoned all for the sake of his commitment to Christ. His goal was making Christ known. His hope was in heaven, not on earth.
 

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