Seeking Significance

Seeking Significance

Everyone wants to have significance in their life. People seek it in many ways. Some seek significance in acquiring things: cars, houses, "toys," antiques, etc. Many times they are measuring themselves against another and thinking, "I have more, so therefore I have significance." Others are thinking, "Just one more thing and I will be fulfilled." Some seek significance in a hobby or a large possession, "My airplane, boat, beach house, model trains, makes me feel good." Still others seek significance in work, position or how much money they make. Many parents seek significance in raising their children. Some seek it in service to others via church, social club, charity, etc.

People seeking significance are really seeking meaning to their life. They are looking for one or more "things" that give them a feeling of value. The pursuit of value is a feeling that "I am valuable because I am giving value or have value."

Unfortunately, few people find lasting significance because their pursuit of significance is really about them. They are doing the things they do to make themselves feel or look better. It is amazing how much money is given to charity at someone's death but not while they are living. They sought significance from their money while alive but wanted to be remembered for giving in their death. Why not give the same amount away while you are alive?

How you seek significance not only affects you, but it also affects your children and their children. Your children watch and model what you do. They then pass that value on to their kids. No matter what you teach, your actions will always carry more meaning and be copied and applied long before anything you say is applied.

True significance is found when your focus is taken off yourself and is focused on another. Giving, serving, helping another for solely the sake of the other person enables you to feel and have significance. Why? God made us that way. When we do things for our benefit, no matter how benevolent they are, we don't truly feel completely fulfilled. We may feel good in the short run, but it is the long run that counts.

Few people have ever said on their death bed that working longer or having more stuff would have made their life so much better. In the end, what gives meaning to life are the positive, others focused, relationships we have. Are you a taker or a giver?

How do you develop good relationships? It first begins with developing good character. How do you develop good character? It begins by determining what character traits you want to develop or improve and working on it each day, week and month.

I have mentioned setting monthly goals. Have you? I have mentioned using affirmations to change an attitude. Are you? Just acknowledging that you need to change is not changing. To develop a better character, you have to take action. Set a monthly goal, write down the affirmation that will help you become a better person.

Read some books that build character. Listen to tapes. Get involved in a Bible study. Go help a neighbor. Get involved in a local charity.

Faith

Psalm 1: 1-3
Blessed is the man who does not walk in the counsel of the wicked or stand in the way of sinners or sit in the seat of mockers. But his delight is in the law of the LORD, and on his law he meditates day and night. He is like a tree planted by streams of water, which yields its fruit in season and whose leaf does not wither. Whatever he does prospers.


Psalm 28: 7-9
The LORD is my strength and my shield; my heart trusts in him, and I am helped. My heart leaps for joy and I will give thanks to him in song. The LORD is the strength of his people, a fortress of salvation for his anointed one. Save your people and bless your inheritance; be their shepherd and carry them forever.

John 10:10
The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I came that they may have life, and have it abundantly.

In the past newsletters I have mentioned that our life is like a wheel with 7 spokes. At the center of the wheel is a hub. In most people's lives, the hub is themselves and that is where they struggle for significance. God made us to have Him as the hub where our lives are centered around living in a relationship with Him. God as the center of lives gives us meaning and gives meaning to the things we do. He made us to have abundant life (significant life) but that can only be lasting when our lives are controlled by Him. Seek His counsel; stand in His way; do not mock truth.

Jesus said that I have come to give abundant life. Have you accepted Jesus as the center of your hub? Acknowledgment is not enough. It is a matter of control. Who is going to be in charge of your life, you or Jesus?
 

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