What You Believe Drives You

What you believe drives you

Have you ever taken time and really assessed what you believe? Have you written down each area of your life and then written "Here is what motivates me or drives me in these areas?" I have. Doing this is difficult, but I did it over a period of a time addressing each area individually. This exercise has changed my life.

Several philosophies that I had believed were actually ruining my life. These values were driving me causing stress and taking my attention away from other areas.

Here are several beliefs that I had and am working to change.

1) "More is better"- According to the American dream, the bigger the house, the more expensive the car and even having extra property or taking a fancy vacation makes a person happier. I had fallen into this lie and was investigating buying, via a mortgage, 100 acres and also was beginning to think I needed a bigger house.

The reality is the more I own, the more stress I have in taking care of what I own. The more I own, the more my stuff owns me. There is freedom in having less. I have been enjoying that freedom for the past 2 years. I have not bought a new car and have worked hard to get out of debt. Yes, I have done without, but I am free from the bank owning me and free from more stuff owning me.

2) "My career matters the most"- I have started a business and the stress is high; the stakes are high and I have others depending on me to make sales, payroll, etc. Under those circumstances, it is easy to believe that my work is the most important thing in my life. Well, when I assessed my values, I realized that work comes and goes, but my family is the one stable thing in my life besides God. Over the past 6 months, I have had to deny work to meet family needs. I have to continually remind myself that my wife and kids are far more important than a business: less of work and more of them.

3) "My purpose in life is to please me" - The temptation was to pursue a life of comfort and ease. Once home from work, the temptation was to check out, to disengage, because that is what was pleasing to me. That attitude alienated my family and caused me to be irritated when someone else needed something. In reality, my purpose in life is truly fulfilled when I love God and I love my neighbor as myself.

4) "You can lead a private life and have private time" - this mind set is that certain habits, attitudes or practices don't affect others. One can have certain vices or hidden activities that don't affect others and are not really harmful. No one is truly an island. All that we do effects others. Our attitudes lead to habits, and habits either are for good or for negative. Our actions and attitudes either build relationships or harm them. The area this addresses is especially applicable in business, what you see on the Internet, and what you watch or read. Garbage in, garbage out. Everything we do effects others, whether it is intangible or tangible.

5) "You can give more than 100%" - I get tired of hearing people say "Give 110%. That sounds really good but what does it really mean. Giving 110% means borrowing from tomorrow and spending it today. That attitude is one that says "You will never have to pay the piper." (Pied Piper story) All we have is one day, a 24 hour time frame, in which we have to live a balanced life. I am learning that stressing out over tomorrow while it is still today, actually robs me of tomorrow. I am learning to work in today and let tomorrow worry about itself. This is very freeing.


Ephesians 5: 15-21

"Be very careful, then, how you live, not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil. Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the Lord's will is. Do not get drunk on wine, which leads to debauchery. Instead, be filled with the Spirit. Speak to one another with psalms, hymns and spiritual songs. Sing and make music in your heart to the Lord, always giving thanks to God the Father for everything, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ. Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ."

These verses are great. They are a warning and an encouragement in how to live your life.

1) We are to be wise, (that is being intentional and to have discernment) in how we live not just letting time slip by.

2) Make the most of every opportunity. This means don't just disengage but stay involved and be on the look out (i.e. have an awareness) for opportunity to move forward in your life.

3) Do not be foolish - A fool assumes that they are wise. A fool assumes that they have all the answers. A fool assumes that they don't have to work at life. A fool checks out of life and lets life run over them. A fool assumes that they don't need to change anything. God's will is for us to have a relationship with him, praising him, being under His influence and to build relationships with others.

4) Submit to one another- This addresses accountability and your private life. Everyone is accountable to others in your attitudes and actions. Submission requires humility.

Matthew 6:34 "Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own."

Enjoy today for that is all you have.

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